Now ya’ll know as well as I do that before there was a J-Lo or a Beyonce, mainstream media didn’t even take a second look at a woman that had hips and thighs and a mass amount of ‘junk in da trunk’. It was all about the 5’7-5’9 chick that weighed a buck ten soaking wet, and that was only after she had eaten her sole meal of the day which consisted of an apple for breakfast. Nowadays it’s all about the booty. You see booty everywhere you go- Videos, movies, commercials, billboards… everywhere! It’s hard to escape it. To steal the concept from Romany Malco’s character on “The 40 Year Old Virgin”, men put the [booty] on a pedestal and use it as a determining factor on whether or not a woman is “dateable”. But what about what a woman has to offer mentally?
Of course it’s even hard for us women to avoid looking at the behind of another woman. It’s not that we are looking at it and fantasizing as the men do. The initial reaction from anyone is simply (in my best Chris Tucker/Ice Cube – Friday voice) “Daaaaaaaaaaaaaamn!!!” It’s not uncommon for women or men to look at a woman who has a nice shape and admire it, however, it does become a problem when a womans body is used to determine her worth and how she see’s herself in her role in society.
You look at the video chicks like Angel Lola Luv and Buffy The Body and you have to wonder : were these girls really born with all that behind them and developed through hard workouts and a decent diet or was it paid for? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not hating on the ladies that have plenty of ass to go around… by no means am I doing that, but I just want to ask the question because it just doesn’t look authentic on some of these women. My annoyance is not with the women with the voluptuous posterior, but with the men who think that having an ass is the end all to be all and a where a woman is mentally plays no role.
Why must my assets literally be the deciding factor on whether or not you date me? Are you dating my ass? Are you talking to my ass to give you advice? Does my ass contribute to you being a better man? Is my ass going to cook your meals or clean your home or keep you warm at night? I highly doubt that any of those concepts apply. Well… wait a minute… strike that last one, but ya’ll see what I’m getting at here. It seems that men don’t even care about a womans mental capabilities but that she just have a big ass that looks good in some applebottom jeans. I don’t get it. The infatuation with big asses has gotten to the point where these women are going out and purchasing ass. Really? Is it that serious now? Obviously it is because it’s how a lot of these girls and women alike are making their living. They’re getting butt implants, butt shots, and butt lifts all because ass is all the rage now.
So what happens when men are no longer infatuated with the power of the booty and they move on to something else?
Let’s face it… Men are visual creatures and Men love a woman’s assets. Whether it be ass, breasts, thighs… whatever!!! The bigger …the better- but… just don’t have a big gut to accompany any of those other big assets or your game is done! It’s funny how a woman can take a man for who he is- big gut, rolls on the back of his neck, snoring, and farting… and we still love them. Why? Because it was something about what that man said in the initial courtship that made us go “WOW!” We’re not as shallow as men are. Women are more mental, and men are more visual as I stated before.
Why do men generally view women as a piece of meat? If you placed any woman in the path of a group of men, she is undoubtedly going to get ogled. She’s going to be assessed from the front first (obviously) but what they’re waiting on is that back shot! If you placed five men in a group I guarantee they will all look at her ass and determine whether or not they will talk to her simply based off of that feature. Naturally… they’re men and that’s what men do. But why not determine this womans attainability off of what she may potentially have to offer on a mental level and not just physical? Is it not a turn on to have an intelligent woman by your side just as it is to have a beautiful one?
It’s a notion that has perplexed men and women alike for years. And you know what? The crazy part of it all is that the woman in question doesn’t need to be cute or even remotely attractive. A good asset will turn even the most beauty-challenged females into objects worthy of capture to men. Is this an inborn trait or something that is acquired through the perverse inclinations of society? As much as I’d like to think that I’m not a pawn of culture, the truth of the matter is that in some respects, we are all very much pawns.
The anatomy of the female body is a beautiful piece of art. Nobody would dare disdain the aesthetics of van Gogh or Warhol, just as a man (or woman in some cases) wouldn’t shun the beauty of a female shape or the male physique. To do that would be absurd. A male coworker one time bought it to my attention that despite me having “hips for days” as he put it, I have a beautiful face and an ample bosom that makes up for my lack of a “boombocity” (that’s what my auntie Patsy used to call it). So that’s why I get hit on regularly and don’t experience some of the things other women do because they are lacking in the back.
Of course, nobody wants a bone but a dog. “Thick” is the new average Jane. I’m sure it’s a fad like everything else is, but what it boils down to is SEX. It’s always about sex. Regardless of how many degrees a woman holds, or her upbringing, a big booty is more handy in the horizontal world than the vertical. To call that thinking shameful is too easy and to write it off as human nature is too enabling. It is merely a result of a value system that is out of whack. What do you value in a relationship more: eye candy or mind candy?